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Sat January 25, 2014 11:46:12 pm
I need relationship advice.. I started dating a guy last fall and we were good together. But I was all in, and he wasn't. He told me he loved me and he wanted a serious relationship we even talked about marriage and kids but it seemed like he still had his guard up and was just looking for reasons to leave. And surely I screwed up and he ran for the hills. I gave him his space, like a couple months worth. Before I tried to get him back, he hasn't been dating anyone else and it honestly seems like he still cares about me he just won't admit it. He barely talks to me and when he does he's a giant smart ass and super condescending (which isn't too out of character) but I love even that about him, I love everything about him. And all I want is to make it right with him. But I don't know what to do or say to get him back. (Idk if it helps for advice purposes or not but he has a super inflated ego and it's hard to get through that, but once again I love that about him) I honestly love everything about this guy, even the things that would otherwise be negative, in my eyes he's just this perfect individual and those "faults" are just what make him the guy I love. I really want this guy back more than anything. Please help???
From Man's point of view on
Sun January 26, 2014 01:13:42 am]
If he truly is what you say he is? Then he's a baby Justin Bieber. Justin's league of girls is you and he is Justin. Someone who is full of himself and there is a woman to soften his fall whenever he needs it.
He doesn't deserve you and you really need to understand why you feel the way you do about him.
The MINUTE he thinks you're hooking with someone else especially a better guy. He'll be on your doorstep in a heartbeat begging you to come back. Reality....he's using you.
You really need to see him in a different light with yourself. And you should really check to see if the pasture is really is greener than where you are. I'd bet it is.
Watch the movie: The Bachelor. The movie is clear and true. You cannot make someone see you the way you want them to. They have to discover that for himself and hopefully not too late.
Past relationship hurt..hurt a lot, but like any wound, you'll heal and get over it.
Don't make the mistake of making him like you. In the end, you will suffer the most.
I'd say...move on.
PS> Last advice on moving on.. do NOT find someone to replace him..instead you must find someone you like because they are who they are not what you want them to be.
From Man's point of view on
Sun January 26, 2014 01:15:36 am]
UGH.. stupid site... strip out the link..
the movie is called: The Bachelor starting Chris O'Donnell and Renée it'll stick this time?
Sun January 26, 2014 02:03:36 am]
Have to agree with some of what the responder above says.. He doesn't sound like the right guy for you, for anyone. True, those are the characteristics you say you like about him, but those all sound like red flags to me. Take it from someone who is probably a lot older, the "smart ass" and "inflated ego" sounds fun when you're young because they're funny, confident, likely a little bad ass too, but there's definitely not relationship material. We should all be with people that want to make us be better people ourselves. This guy sounds like he'll make you feel bad about how things are going, which in turn makes you feel bad about yourself. I hope you find someone you love, who loves you back even more because it sounds like that's what you really need.