Mar 2014 17

I am 21 years old and have never dated, but I've kissed two guys (not the classy way) Don't get me wrong, I am not one of those people who are like "Oh poor me, I hate myself". I love myself! But sometimes I do wonder if something is wrong with me or what I am doing wrong.

I know there are tons of fish in the sea, and I know that I am probably picky (I feel that physical attraction factors in; I am a healthy vegetarian individual and taste in music is a MUST), but I just really want someone who I can have intellectual discussions with...someone who likes similar things and understands me. I don't enjoy being texted all the time (especially if it is just the word "hey"), and I DONT appreciate being a crutch booty call...I always attract boys who just want to date to date. I'm really tired of boys in general...I'm a feminist for the first thing, and second them texting me constantly because I personally don't think it's a very healthy habit.

However, this is very hard because I have had troubles in the past with boys in general. Several boys have not left me alone and I don't want to do that again. I want relationships to mean something, but at the same time I am scared of being tied down in general because relationships are a big commitment. I also have a wandering eye sometimes and wonder if I would cheat and I hope to God not.

I have tried going online but I gave up because A) I never seemed to find someone I am looking for/tired of obnoxious messages B) I don't have money to upgrade to find better matches C) I ended up with a situation in which I could have possibly been talking to a serial killer.

I also really want to have sex.
I am also probably a Bisexual and am tired of people looking down because of that...I haven't exactly come up but I know that it is VERY looked down upon because my mom is one of those people like "Why can't you just pick a side? It's disgusting!" blah blah blah.

Anyways, I am glad I could at least type this.

[by Anon on Wed March 19, 2014 04:48:33 am]
Doesn't sound like you are doing anything wrong. Sounds like you have thoughtfully figured some stuff about yourself and are sorting through the rest. If other 21-year-olds like you could do the same, they'd be in much better shape. For most people, it takes time to find someone you want to be in a committed relationship with. And what's the rush? If you plan on dating a guy your age, likely he's not mature enough. When I your was age, I was attracted to girls as well, probably more so than guys. There was probably one guy for every 5 girls I found attractive. Now a decade later, I'm in a happy, healthy and loving relationship with a man. Who'd a thought? Just take your time processing things. You're not doing anything wrong.

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[by Romby on Wed July 27, 2016 04:18:46 am]
At last! Someone with real exisrtpee gives us the answer. Thanks!

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