Jul 2012 31

I am about at my wits end with a friend of mine. Overall they've been a great friend. Mostly. But I just don't feel like they are 100% genuinely my friend. Every time I have tried to get them to hang with me something "comes up" or they say they "forgot". My opinion is if we were REALLY friends you would make an effort to not forget the important things. And not only that. Whenever we hang out with groups of people (that he knows and i dont) they never include me
In anything going on. I could easily make myself scarce and they wouldn't notice I was gone! Plus I noticed they spent A LOT of time with their college friends. There have been multiple times when they have gotten in the way of us hanging out and stuff. It always seems that something goes wrong whenever we do anything.
I've trusted them with my life. Told them secrets about me no one else knows. I've tried my best to be a good friend but my patience is wearing thin.

[by Anon on Tue July 31, 2012 09:38:21 am]
I have had things like that go on with me too. When I was about 12 I had a friend who always bailed out last minute, so I felt embarrassed asking my parents a week in advance if I could go out because I knew that my friend would cancel and my parents would probably think I'm a loser or something. Basically now, I don't tell my parents anything.

Seven years later (today), a different friend and I have drifted completely apart. She has other friends and I am/was never included. It's awful but you'll get over it. Eventually you just forget and find other people out there. I am glad to hear you still try to be a good friend though.

[by Anon on Mon August 27, 2012 10:45:41 pm]
Sounds tough. Now as uncomfortable as it will be, you should have a talk with your friend. You keep trying to be a good friend, but they need to meet you half way. Friendship, like all relationships is a sum of parts, one person can't carry the whole thing by themselves

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