Mar 2011 28
Posted by
CultureClash
in
Venting
on
Mon March 28, 2011 07:17:45 pm
My ex-boyfriend and I had been dating for nearly 5 months, we're both 16, our first relationship and it was going great. Until he told me that he recently found out of plans for his marriage. It was at a family party that a girl hit on him, the parents of my ex and the girl began to talk and my ex's dad suggested they get married. His parents fully know we were dating. It makes me angry that they would have guts to break us apart for something like that. I know it is part of their culture, but couldn't they at least have waited until after high school, or at the very least for us to break up on our own. My ex says that it's what is best for him. That when people are in their 20s looking to marry, he will already have settled down, and that it will make his family happy. What about his happiness? We are both sad, no longer together. When we were together, happiest times ever. How could parents do this to their child?
I don't know how to act around him now, I still care about him, but know that I have to stop liking him, he's going to get married in two years. This all seems so unfair, for the both of us. We did nothing wrong, but now can no longer be together.
[by
AnonGirl on
Sat April 16, 2011 02:28:12 pm]
I know you don't want to hear this, but you're still young and time will pass for you to get over this. You don't want to be stuck with someone who's family forces him into an arranged marriage - he doesn't have the freedom to do what he wants to do, or maybe now at his age, he just doesn't see it.
As for how to act, you just have to be strong, be friendly and stay cordial. The longer you guys tried to be together, the harder it would be when you were pulled apart. So this is for the best.
Like you said, it might have naturally fallen apart when you graduated high school, so it just had to happen a little earlier. And will you find a great and amazing guy.. a GREAT guy, who makes you forget about this one.
[by
Original Poster on
Tue April 19, 2011 04:49:37 pm]
Thank you so much :) I realized we both have to do what's best for us and this is what's best. We're friends still because we have class together and mutual friends and things are going great. NO guy in my life but like you said, there will be a great guy someday. :D
[by
Anon on
Tue April 26, 2011 03:57:15 pm]
Exactly, OP (original poster)! You have the world ahead of you, and a great guy will fall into place someday. In the meanwhile, enjoy life. Take it from someone who's nearly twice your age. :)
